Read if you have an angry person affecting your life.
People are led to believe that: ‘I am the reason this person is getting angry’’. The level to which this damages a person’s life is incomprehensible. Children grow up thinking their parents are angry for reasons against the child’s behavior. In a marriage, the partner ends up taking hits of angry phases and this leads people to become overly forgiving and hold low self-esteem. I don’t need to expand on the consequences of keeping a person with anger management problems in your life. Getting someone with an anger issue to agree to seek help tends to be easy but normally this conversation is left too late.
Anger management tends to be the easiest area of psychology and is a starting point for many therapists. It can be cleared in a short space of time and there’s a lot of resources and practices to help someone through it.
Understanding anger management help does not start if the issue is chemically related, such as drugs, alcohol, medication etc. If the reason for anger is stemming from a chemical reaction then the help required would be a different topic.
With every anger management case we identify whether the person is angry towards only loved ones or is the anger taking place outside of their inner circle. If anger is taking place towards loved ones we know the person doesn’t like getting angry towards them and they are struggling with their own thoughts. We’d implement a lot of thought management techniques and breathwork. This tends to show results within a week and then we move on to embedding new habits which help the person build loving styles of communication in place of the old bad habits.
If the person is releasing anger on objects, situations and even themselves then we have a habit that needs changing and lifestyle changes to push through. Essentially we are looking for the ‘root desire’ with ‘what do you want?’ type of questions. The person will always know what they don’t want so we have to establish a line of thinking to speak out for what they specifically want.
Whether you choose to take the above information and get a therapist to run through the process or you decide to use the process yourself, understand that anger can be cleared if the person is willing. If the person is not willing then you shouldn’t have to fall victim to them so do educate yourself about the process you can implement to tame the person’s anger. The scary reality is if you try to not trigger someone’s anger then they’ll trigger it themselves over a smaller matter; it’ll leave you living on edge.
It doesn’t sound fun but anger management is essentially motivation management. The same person that holds uncontrolled anger can be a person that holds great motivation levels much more effortlessly than others. Mental health awareness as a whole can help people who are struggling with their thoughts to prosper in life with those thoughts…
Feel free to reach out if you have any questions on helping someone with anger and I hope the above information helps clarify the topic for you. The last thing we want to do is make an angry person feel bad because that’ll keep them on an emotional roller coaster.